Friday, September 30, 2016

We invite you to watch and share this interview that is running from October 1-31, 2016 on Comcast Channel 6 Utah.  Share Parents of Utah President, Melannie Green, explains who we are and why we serve our community.

Rights of Parents When a Baby Dies

  1. To be given the opportunity to see, hold, touch, and bathe their baby at any time before and/ or after death within reason.
  2. To have photographs of their baby taken and made available to the parents or held in a secure place until the parents wish to see them.
  3. To be given as many mementos as possible, e.g., crib card, baby beads, ultrasound and / or other photos, lock of hair, baby clothing and blankets, feet and hand prints and/or permanent molds and record of weight and length.
  4. To name their child and bond with him or her.
  5. To observe cultural and religious practices.
  6. To be cared for by an empathetic staff who will respect their feelings, thoughts, beliefs and and individual requests.
  7. To be with each other throughout hospitalization as much as possible.
  8. To be given time alone with their baby, allowing for individual needs.
  9. To be informed of the grieving process.
  10. To be given the option of donating their baby’s cartilage, tissue and/or organs for transplant or donating the baby’s body to science.
  11. To request an autopsy. In the case of miscarriage, to request to have or not have an autopsy or pathology exam as determined by applicable law.
  12. To have information presented in terminology understandable to the parents regarding their baby’s status and cause of death, including autopsy and pathology reports and medical records.
  13. To plan a farewell ritual, burial or cremation in compliance with local and state regulations and according to their personal beliefs, religious or cultural tradition.
  14. To be provided with information on support resources which assist in the healing process, e.g., local support groups, perinatal loss internet support, counseling, reading material and perinatal loss newsletters.
Copyright © 1991 Adapted by Share Pregnancy and Infant Loss Support, Inc., with permission from Women’s College Hospital, Perinatal Bereavement Team, Toronto Ontario Canada. Updated July 2006.

Rights of Parents
Whose Baby Dies Very Early in Pregnancy

Parents who have experienced an early pregnancy loss should have the opportunity:
  1. To be with each other during any tests, procedures or hospitalization as much as possible.
  2. To be cared for by an empathic staff who will respect their feelings, beliefs and individual requests.
  3. To have information presented in terminology understandable to parents regarding their baby’s status and or cause of death (if known), including pathology reports and medical records.
  4. To be told all options and to be given the choice (when medically possible) on how to proceed when their baby has died, such as D&C, natural delivery or delivery induced by medications.
  5. To be able to see and hold their baby and take photographs if possible.
  6. To be given the option to name their baby if they choose to, whether or not the gender is known.
  7. To observe cultural and religious practices the parents feel are appropriate to the situation.
  8. To be informed of the grieving process and to be given referrals and resources that will help them through their grief.
  9. To be offered as many mementos as possible, for example, ultrasound photos, memory box, certificate of life.
  10. To be given information on the facility’s disposition policy and offered choices whenever possible.
  11. To be given options regarding farewell rituals such as a hospital memorial service, a balloon release, or a private burial at home.
  12. To receive follow-up appointments for medical tests and genetic counseling or to review lab test results.
  13. These rights should be granted to parents no matter how early in the pregnancy their loss occurred.

Adapted from “Rights of Parents who Experience and Early Pregnancy Loss” by Perry-Lynn Moffit, co-author of A Silent Sorrow and endorsed by Share Pregnancy and Infant Loss Support, Inc. and pregnancy and perinatal loss support groups and leaders nationally.

Rights of the Baby

  1. To be recognized as a person who was born and died.
  2. To be named.
  3. To be seen, touched and held by the family.
  4. To have the end of life acknowledged.
  5. To be put to rest with dignity.

Rights of Children When a Sibling Dies

  1. To be acknowledged as individuals who have feelings that need to be expressed.
  2. To be given the choice to see and hold our sibling before and after the death within reason.
  3. To be considered in the choices parents are given, we may have opinions on such things as plans for funeral, baby’s name, etc.
  4. To be informed about the feelings of grief in our terms, giving us the choice of a support group or counselor.
  5. To be recognized by our society that we will always love and miss our sibling.


All are welcome to attend our 21st Annual

Walk for Remembrance and Hope

"Love Lights the Way"

Saturday, October 1, 2016

Registration begins at 1:00 PM
Program begins at 1:30 PM

International Peace Gardens
1060 Dalton Ave S, Salt Lake City, UT 84104

Come and enjoy each others company, 
incredible music by Wilford Prater
and the Jordan Youth Choir
and a memorial walk around the gorgeous gardens.

The short walk will be followed by
an honorary name reading
emceed by Surae Chinn and Dan Pope from abc4Utah
and a moving dove release graciously sponsored by
 Utah Infertility Resource Center 

We are doing a second printing of the Custom Share Shirts/Hoodies

It is a TWO (2) step process:
1) Shirts may be ordered here
2) Once you have your order number you submit your baby's name(s) here
    (I filled out this form twice for my twins using the same order number)

We are offering high quality, tri-blend shirts and zip-hoodies
in women's, men's and children's sizes.
They are currently available for order until MIDNIGHT October 9, 2016 and available for pick-up at our November Support Meetings.

Items for sale at the Walk:

We will be taking pre-orders for one-of-a-kind, personalized Christmas ornaments to take home and/or place on the Share Parents of Utah "Love Lights The Way" tree at the 2016 Festival of Trees

Limited quantities available - Ordering is available AT the Walk and then for a few weeks following the Walk (while supplies last).******************************************************************************************************
An exclusive piece by "Made by Mary".  
It is a high-quality necklace created in honor of our angel babies and is exclusive only to our friends with Share Parents of Utah.  A portion of sales from this piece will be donated by Made by Mary to Share Parents of Utah. 
Order here and at the Walk.
Ordering is available AT the Walk and then for three months following the Walk.
Plan your holiday gifting NOW!  Makes a memorable gift for Christmas, Valentine's Day, Anniversaries, etc.

Each piece of jewelry is handcrafted using US-sourced gold filled and sterling silver. Gold filled is a durable, high-quality alternative to solid gold, and contains 100 times more real gold than than gold-plated products. It won't irritate sensitive skin and, with care, holds up beautifully to daily wear.
Each piece is individually hand stamped, assembled, polished, and packaged right here in Draper, Utah by Mary and her small team. Their attention to detail ensures that you'll receive the highest quality product, made with love.
Character Count limits:
*With One Star plus name: 9 characters (right alignment)
*With One Star plus date: 8 characters INCLUDING periods
(right alignment)
*With Two Stars plus name: 6 characters
(right alignment)
*Seven Stars is the maximum (centered)
*Available in Roman Numerals too!
*Only One Side is Stamped*

Necklaces come in your choice of three colors:
14kt gold filled,
14kt rose gold filled,
or sterling silver
No plating.

17", 18", and 19" long chains with spring clasp
Visit Made by Mary for more details
Mini rings, memorial hand & feet pins, keychains and bears
October 1, 2016 is the LAST day to purchase Shopping Extravaganza Tickets

We are trying to eliminate as many bank fees as possible and would love it if you would consider using Venmo when making any purchases or donations to Share Parents of Utah.
Our Venmo account is:

Visit the following booths:

 Utah Infertility Resource Center

Ben and Lindsay Dougal are fundraising to place another Cuddle Cot in one of our local, area hospitals.  They will be accepting monetary donations in addition to selling memorial pins.  More information can be found on our website's donate tab or on the website set up by Theo's parents.

Teeny Tears

Each household will be invited to personalize, place along the walking path (unlit) and then take home their very own luminary bag with candle to use on October 15 for the
International Wave of Light Ceremony

Frequently asked questions:

Is there a cost to attend? No, there is no cost to attend and participate in the Walk!  You are welcome to purchase t-shirts, hoodies, and other memorabilia, and all proceeds from these sales help to fund the Walk as well as fund other services Share Parents of Utah provides to the families we serve.

How long is the Walk? The memorial walk utilizes the sidewalk that goes around the beautiful gardens and lasts about 10-15 minutes at a slow/moderate paced walk.

Will seating be provided during the musical portion of the program?  No.  We invite you to bring your own chairs and blankets to relax on during this portion of the event.  Get to know your fellow bereaved parent(s) and feel safe knowing you are surrounded by those who understand, care and will listen.

Will the event be held if it's raining?  YES!  The event will be held rain or shine, so be prepared with an umbrella if the weather is rainy.

This is my first year at the Walk, what can I expect?  When you first arrive at the Walk, there is a registration table set up where you can write your baby/babies names on a card to be read later at the name reading.  You can also pick up your pre-ordered t-shirt at that time as well.  When the program starts, there will be a musical number, followed by name reading, dove release and then the walk itself.  At the end of the memorial walk, you will be able to pick up your memorial luminary.  After the service is over, you can bring a note or a small memento for your baby that is sealed in a vault donated by Larkin Sunset Lawn located just off Foothill Drive and 1300 South, and is opened once a year.  Refreshments will also be provided.  The entire service lasts about an hour.

Do I need to bring anything to the Walk?  You may want to bring a camp/folding chair and /or blanket if you would like.  You may also bring a card, note, or small memento for your baby to be put in the memorial vault at the end of the service.

Who can come with me to the Walk?  Everyone is welcome to attend!  Bring your family, friends, or anyone else who you think might benefit from attending this wonderful event.

Please note that the
Department of Public Services, Salt Lake City Corporations
has stipulated that all patrons of our walk
park on Montague and Fremont Avenues,
 as well any bordering streets, as according to law,
with the exception of 900 West.

You will find the locations of these streets
on the North and South ends of the park
and on the yellow highlighted portions of the map below.

Your cooperation is greatly appreciated.

Handicap parking is available for those patrons with proper placards. 

An additional thank you goes out to Plan It Rentals for helping us with our sound system.
Kowallis Electric for helping provide refreshments.

Upcoming Events

Don't miss interviews with Share Parents of Utah
the entire month of October-Utah Channel 6, Xfinity On Demand and

 Join us at the upcoming
4th Annual Shopping Extravaganza
at the Outlets at Traverse Mountain
on October 8, 2016 from 10 AM - 4 PM

Ticket required~Exclusive Discounts
Prizes&Giveaways~Live Music
Swag Bags~Lunch&Dessert provided

This is one of the BIGGEST fundraising events for our non-profit group as $15 from each ticket sold comes back to us!

$20 tickets may be purchased from any
Share Parents of Utah volunteer
or by calling Melannie at 801-864-1040.
OCTOBER 1, 2016

If you order online, make sure you indicate that this ticket should benefit
Share Parents of Utah

Participate in the Wave of Light Ceremony
on October 15, 2016
and share your photos with us on our Facebook page!
You are invited to pick up your personalized paper luminary and candle at our Annual Walk on October 1, 2016
(one per household)


Come see our Share Parents of Utah
"Love Lights the Way" tree at the
Annual Festival of Trees
Wednesday, November 30 through Saturday, December 3, 2016
10:00 a.m. to 10:00 p.m. each day
(do not forget to purchase your own personal ornament as well as one to place on the tree)


Don't miss our
Third Annual Valentine's Gala
February 9, 2017
at the Loveland Living Planet Aquarium
(tickets available NOW)
Dr. Matt Townsend will be speaking on the unique relationship experiences that can occur while healing after the loss of our loved one(s)
and photographer John Lloyd will capture the evening
and provide a free, downloadable keepsake photo of you and your companion.
*This Is A Formal Event*


October Support Meetings

Establishing Memories w/Melannie
(you are invited to bring memories to share)
Although not required, we also invite you to bring a treat or snack that has good memories associated with to share with the group.
NO RSVP required.
Wednesday, October 12, 2016
7:00-8:30 PM
located at 1136 Pioneer Road, Draper, UT 84020

Establishing Memories w/Heidi & Carma
(you are invited to bring memories to share)
Although not required, we also invite you to bring a treat or snack that has good memories associated with to share with the group.
NO RSVP required
Tuesday, October 25, 2016
7:30-9:00 PM
Jordan Valley Hospital