Our mission is to serve those touched by the death of a baby through pregnancy loss, stillbirth, or in the first few months of life. Our purpose is to provide support toward healing at the time of or following the death of a baby. We provide education and resources on the needs and rights of bereaved parents and siblings. We strive to set a standard of perinatal bereavement care through a lifetime of support, hope and healing-one family at a time. For support, please contact us at 801-272-5355.
Jordan Valley Medical Center 3580 West 9000 South, West Jordan, UT 84088 2nd Floor Classroom 2 Enter from the south-east side of the building, "In patient" at the door. Take the elevators to the second floor, then turn left when you get off the elevators and it's the first door you see
Group Support Meeting (no RSVP required) Wednesday, August 9, 7:00-8:30 PM "Reinvesting In Life" w/Tami & Tiffany Tami habla español Herriman Public Library, Large Meeting Room 5380 West Herriman Main Street, Herriman, UT 84096
Group Support Meeting (no RSVP required) Thursday, August 10, 2017, 7:00-8:30 PM Pregnancy After Loss (PAL) Meeting w/Melannie and Tiffany Mountain Point Medical Center, "Mountain Summit 2" -conference room located on the first floor 3000 North Triumph Blvd, Lehi, UT 84043
Couple's Grief Workshop Wednesday, August 16, 7-9:00 PM with Dr. Jake Andreason
hosted by Melannie and Jaymie
Open to ALL - companions encouraged, but not required, please RSVP
Group Support Meeting (no RSVP required) Tuesday, August 22, 2017, 7:30-9:00 PM Reinvesting In Life w/Carma & Tiffany Jordan Valley Medical Center 3580 West 9000 South, West Jordan, UT 84088 2nd Floor Classroom 2 Enter from the south-east side of the building, "In patient" at the door. Take the elevators to the second floor, then turn left when you get off the elevators and it's the first door you see
A Look Ahead...
Grandparents Grief Workshop
Open to ALL Grandparents and includes a special craft!
We encourage you to share this event will all grandparents who have
experienced the death of a child and/or grandchild.
Tuesday, September 5, 7:00-9:00 PM with Dr. Jake Andreason
hosted by Melannie and Jaymie Must RSVP by emailing us at firstname.lastname@example.org Jordan Valley Medical Center 3580 West 9000 South, West Jordan, UT 84088 2nd Floor Classroom 2 Enter from the south-east side of the building, "In patient" at the door. Take the elevators to the second floor, then turn left when you get off the elevators and it's the first door you see
We are accepting reservations NOW for our summer workshop's with Dr. Jake Andreason. You will find full details below.
In June we held our "Father's Feel Too" workshop. It was an open and honest discussion for all in attendance, particularly the sweet fathers.
Our upcoming workshops include two Children's Grief Workshops, a Couple's Communication workshop and a very special Grandparents Grief workshop/craft. We encourage you to invite all grandparents out to our workshop. We always provide refreshments and all activity supplies and kindly request an RSVP to hold your space(s). Because of the tender subject, we will only allow up to 20 children at each Children's Grief Workshop. Do not delay - email us with your RSVP NOW!
We are thrilled to announce that our first PAL~Pregnancy After Loss Group Support Meetings began in June and will be held monthly at Mountain Point Medical Center in Lehi, Utah. Please visit our website for complete schedule. We encourage anyone who is expecting again, or even thinking about embarking on this journey, to come and surround yourself by supportive friends, vent, learn coping techniques and feel a sense of peace. These meeting are open to ALL but are sensitively geared towards those experiencing a subsequent pregnancy.
We are so grateful to Jacquelene Fellows for leading these meetings and we know you will enjoy getting to know her and gain a new friend, as we have. Share Parents of Utah is honored to introduce her to you and we have asked her to share a little about herself:
My name is Jacquelene Fellows. I am a wife, mother of four, and salon owner. Honestly, growing up I never had the desire to have children until I met my husband, Bronson. When we met he had a 3-year-old daughter named Abbygail and she instantly filled my heart with love and a yearning for my own children. In November of 2011 our beautiful daughter McKenzie was born. She rocked my world in every way possible. When she was two we decided to start trying for our second child together. Little did I know the heartbreaking journey that we were about to embark on.
In an 18-month span we experienced two miscarriages and then on March 1, 2014 I gave birth to our angel, McKayla Mary Fellows, at only 20.4 weeks pregnant.
Fast forward to July of 2015 and we completed our family with our spit-fire of a son, Connor. My pregnancy with him was filled with so many emotions and overwhelming fear at times.
When I was asked if I would be willing to lead a new monthly support group for pregnancy after a loss I immediately knew it was exactly what I needed in my life! It has brought me so much peace and joy. I hope to help other families navigate their emotions during their loss(es) and help them learn to cope with future pregnancies. I'm truly honored to be a part of the Share Parents of Utah organization.
Wednesday, July 12 7:00-8:30 PM Group Support Meeting "Challenges in Grief" with Tami and Millie (Tami habla espanol) Herriman Public Library Large meeting room 5380 West Herriman Main Street, Herriman, UT 84096
Wednesday, July 19 7:00-9:00 PM Children's Grief Workshop with Dr. Jake Andreason Parents are invited to bring children ages 2-18 RSVP required by Monday, July 17 (limited to 20 children) Interactive activities and refreshments will be provided Jordan Valley Medical Center 2nd floor, classroom 2 3580 West 9000 South, West Jordan, UT 84088
Thursday, July 20 7:00-8:30 PM Group Support Meeting Pregnancy After Loss (PAL) with Jacquelene and Nancy Mountain Point Medical Center Room "Mountain Summit 2" 3000 North Triumph Blvd., Lehi UT 84043 (this meeting is "open to everyone", however, please note that it is primarily geared towards parents expecting or preparing for a baby after loss)
Tuesday, July 25 7:30-9:00 PM Group Support Meeting "Challenges in Grief" with Carma and Ashley Jordan Valley Medical Center 2nd floor, classroom 2 3580 West 9000 South, West Jordan, UT 84088
A Look Ahead at other Workshops
Tuesday, August 8 7:00-9:00 PM Children's Grief Workshop with Dr. Jake Andreason Parents are invited to bring children ages 2-18 RSVP required (limited to 20 children) Interactive activities and refreshments will be provided
Wednesday, August 16 7:00-9:00 PM Couple's Grief Workshop with Dr. Jake Andreason Open to ALL - companions encouraged but not required Refreshments will be provided Please RSVP to hold your spot
Tuesday, September 5 7:00-9:00 PM Grandparents Grief Workshop with Dr. Jake Andreason Please invite ALL Grandparents to join us! Craft supplies and refreshments will be provided RSVP required to hold your spot
ALL Workshops are held at: Jordan Valley Medical Center 2nd floor, classroom 2 3580 West 9000 South, West Jordan, UT 84088
June 14 Group Support Meeting at West Jordan Library 7-8:30 PM-Room A, at 8030 South 1825 West, West Jordan, UT 84088 June 15 Pregnancy After Loss (PAL) Group Support Meeting at Mountain Point Medical Center 7-8:30 PM-3000 North Triumph Blvd, Lehi, UT 84043-in Mountain Summit 2 room June 20 Father's Feel Too Workshop with Dr. Jake Andreason at Jordan Valley Medical Center 7-9 PM (RSVP not required, partner's attendance encouraged, but not required)-Classroom 2, second floor, 3580 West 9000 South, West Jordan, UT 84088 June 24 Angel Sew Night sewing Teeny Tears diapers in honor of Isabelle Hatch's 13th Birthday 6-9 PM, hosted by Claudie Hatch in Eagle Mountain, Utah (please email us for address) June 27 Group Support Meeting at Jordan Valley Medical Center 7:30-9 PM-Classroom 2, second floor, 3580 West 9000 South, West Jordan, UT 84088
Please listen in and share with our communities that Share Parents of Utah is here to support grieving families all along the Wasatch Front/Central Utah. ****************************************************************************************************
If you were unable to join us at our April 25 meeting, please come on May 10 to our support meeting "Nurturing Self" to write a special note to a mother experiencing the death of their baby - What do you wish someone had said to you at the time of your loss? Help us help others - we will deliver these notes as we conduct hospital support visits.
In addition, you are invited to make a beautiful charm bracelet of your own to take home. Each mother will be able to create a bracelet with one charm at No Charge~additional charms may be available first-come, first-served, for a small donation. We have plenty of bracelets and charms for all you amazing mommy's!
Share Parents of Utah is currently expanding support to Central Utah, comprising Sanpete, Sevier, Juab, Emery, Carbon, and Millard counties, an additional 19,000 square miles. These hospitals currently have little to no volunteer bereavement support. This is a great opportunity to serve! Please contact us if you would like to volunteer in these areas.
My Sister's Legacy
By: Sister Jamesine Sister of Jane Marie Lamb OSF, Foundress of Share
I am a blood sister of Sister Jane Marie Lamb, founder of Share. I am amazed at the enormous gift my little sister has given to our world. We were a large family growing up on a farm in Missouri. Our early education was in a small school with one room that held all eight grades together with one person teaching.
Sister Jane Marie knew from an early age that God was calling her to become a religious sister. What she did not know was that she would become a nurse; she thought she might be given housekeeping responsibilities. She has always been a loving and compassionate person, so nursing provided a great opportunity for her to share those gifts in her ministry. She quickly recognized the joy of reaching out to the sick and poor of our world, and she especially liked working with parents and children.
Back in the 70’s, she was approached by some parents telling her she had to do something to help them with their grief after losing their baby. This touched her deeply, and she responded immediately by listening and comforting in her compassionate way. She knew she had to do more.
In 1977, she was transferred to St. John’s Hospital in Spring eld, Illinois to minister in Pastoral Care. The hospital administrator provided an o ice for her with in kind supplies for her to organize the Share support system. She did most of it alone with the help of a couple of friends and some bereaved parents volunteering to assist. At the same time, she began sharing her insights and experience with medical and other professionals who cared for grieving parents, but knew very little or nothing about meeting their needs.
Sister Jane Marie began providing education on perinatal loss and bereavement to hospitals, seminaries, nursing schools and universities in the area. She was not timid in approaching those who could be of help in all aspects involving the death of an infant such as undertakers, teaching them to provide burial with dignity.
Sometime later, Ann Landers published a column about Share's helpful services. The response was so overwhelming that more help was needed and a secretary was employed to help with communications and outreach.
Sister Jane Marie put her whole heartandsoulintoherministry with grieving parents and others. Many of the wonderful, loving services presently available around perinatal losses today were initiated by her. She loved listening to and comforting grieving parents.
As the foundation grew around this country and internationally, the administration and fund raising demands also grew, so that she had little time for direct relating to grieving parents. She knew it was the time to pass this responsibility to another caring, compassionate and capable person.
In December of 2004, she was diagnosed with lung cancer. She lived for two months. During those days, she spent most of her time speaking with family and friends near and far away to tell them good-bye. This was a peaceful time for her with total acceptance that God was calling her home. Members of our religious community have noted; “She showed us how to die.”
communities in Sanpete, Sevier, Juab, Emery, Carbon, and Millard counties.
We are also thrilled to have the INCREDIBLE Stacey Fletcher on board
to head up and take the lead on this opportunity.
Should you know families in those areas who are interested in our services or would like to volunteer, we are eager to talk with them!
We have truly enjoyed getting to know and work with Stacey! Her heart is in this work and she is amazing with the families she has supported! We encourage you to get to know her as well.
Recently I watched my friends bury their sweet baby boy. As Kieran carried the little casket out of the hearse to the cemetery, my mind raced back to when I watched my husband, Bryan, carry our little casket, with our own little boy. My son weighed seven pounds and four ounces, but his casket weighed a million pounds. Bryan could hardly carry such a burden. Tiny caskets are one of the heaviest objects on earth. No matter how Super strong, or Super spiritual, or Super brave someone thinks they are…tiny caskets are kryptonite and will bring the strongest to their knees and push faces into the earth asking why.
These little caskets weigh so much because they not only hold our children, we are forced to shove so much in the casket around them—heavy things, things that weigh one million pounds. We tuck in our hopes and dreams for that child—their first steps, first day of school, first date, college, wedding, grandchildren, tears, laughter, disagreements, and fears. We are forced to pack these gigantic items around our still children, leaving our own hearts shattered in the process. Parents then have to fight to close these stuffed caskets, leaving one last kiss, one last look that we beat ourselves with when it begins to fade from our human memories.
I remember wrapping my son tightly in a warm blanket and placing a white warm hat on his head. He was an infant. How does a parent place an infant in the cold December ground and not worry about him freezing? My mind knew his spirit wasn’t there, but my heart was worried he would be so cold. It was haunting. Tiny caskets force us to think horrible things—things that no parent should even consider. These thoughts make those little caskets weigh even more—millions of pounds….
When these little caskets are placed into the ground, I wonder why they do not fall through the earth to its core. Simple dirt should not be able to hold the weight of such a huge object. Parents have to walk away and feel the pain of part of ourselves ripping away to forever climb into that casket with our children. We cannot help it. A little piece of us will always be lost, be shoved into that simple little box with them. Our weight is added to its total.
Logically, we stand over little caskets, knowing that our child’s spirit has moved on. We really believe it. We see their earthly bodies, bodies often riddled with sickness, problems, and injury. They are in a better place. We know that we will see them again. Even parents who have not been taught it, believe it. We have to. This belief is what forces the air in and out of our lungs. Our heads truly believe it, but our hearts—wow! Our hearts crave for the impossible. Our arms, our breasts, our fingers ache for another touch, just one more moment, no matter how still our child is in that awful, kryptonite casket. Burial seems inhumane, a ritual reserved for a cruel culture, an unforgiving world that forces me to put my child in a box in the ground away from me! Who would ask a parent to do such a thing?
Sadly, many parents understand the weight of these tiny caskets. They are scattered around the world, weighing the earth down with their heaviness. Race, religion, location are not a consideration. No one is exempt. Power, wealth, medicine, and happiness cannot stop these caskets. As parents who own these caskets, we belong to a club that we never dreamed existed, until death took our children. Yet, with these heavy burdens, we are often given…in time…precious gifts as well.
We are gifted the most precious treasure of perspective. We understand love in a new way. We understand the blessings of children that many around the world take for granted. We learn to treasure time in ways that other parents do not. If we have more children, we are the types that stand over our babies and watch them sleep. We treasure every eye lash and fingernail and breath. We may not understand each other’s pain exactly, but we know similar pain. For those of us forced to load these heavy caskets, each story is unique, each sadness is different. Yet, we can look into the eyes of other parents who have lost and not say a word. We know that it is okay to be broken, to be mad, and to be sickened. Together, we are a powerful force of survival and strength. We picked ourselves up and forced air into our lungs when we did not think it would be possible. Together we stand with others like us, and we talk of our children and say words that we would never say to others; we describe our angels and love them no matter their appearance or condition. To us, they were perfect.
In time, we become superheroes, and we cannot be stopped by caskets, or urns, or even the burden of nothing to show for a tiny life. We learn to live with grief and heartbreak. Our mighty hearts reach to others, and we grow in strength as we carry our burdens and our joys and our determination to live for our babies who are no longer in our arms, but who walk as angels by our sides each day.
Please join us at our upcoming Group Support Meetings.
Our meetings are always held on the SECOND Wednesday at a local public library and the FOURTH Tuesday at Jordan Valley Hospital.
Despite How You Feel There IS Reason For Hope
March 8, 7-8:30 PM
with Tami and Alexis
Herriman Public Library
5380 West Main Street
Herriman, UT 84096
March 28, 7:30-9 PM
with Carma and Jacquelene
Jordan Valley Medical Center
3580 West 9600 South
West Jordan, UT 84088
Share Parents of Utah has been ramping up to participate in the
Please consider researching what we plan on doing with the money we raise and supporting our fundraising efforts and visiting our individualized link here.
This month's quote:
hope is being able to see that there is light despite all of the darkness.
We want to thank all of you who were able to attend our
3rd Annual Valentine's Gala this past month!
The night was so memorable and we learned so much from
Dr. Matt Townsend on incorporating the three E's into our lives!
It was a pleasure to see so many of you there and we are so grateful that you supported our silent auction. We feel so blessed to have so many incredible items donated/purchased on our behalf! We were able to raise almost $5,000. This money is so desperately needed as we continue to grow and help so many families when they experience the unthinkable.
If you would like access to your free photo, please contact us at email@example.com and we will give you the link to your free downloadable photo(s).
We look forward to celebrating Valentine's Day a few days early with fellow Share Parentswho understand and love one another!
We are so excited to have Dr. Matt Townsend back with us (www.matttownsend.com).
He will be speaking on the unique relationship experiences that can occur while on our grief journey following the death of our loved one(s).
The Gala is February 9, 2017, 6-9 PM at Loveland Living Planet Aquarium in Draper, UT.
We will be holding a silent auction with items such as jetBlue Airways tickets, Disneyland tickets, local sports tickets, hotel stays, gift baskets, and much much more!
Everyone who attends the Gala will automatically be entered into a raffle to win a fantastic gift basket put together by our amazing sponsors from the efforts of our incredible, hard-working and selfless volunteers!
Ticket sales are closed.
Photographer John Lloyd (www.capturedlightphoto.com) will capture the evening and provide a free, downloadable keepsake photo for you.
**Full Cash Bar available
*This Is A Formal Event*
Taking Care of Your Relationship After the Death of a Child
Written by Lisa Buell on Thursday, January 29, 2009
Valentine’s Day is a day for lovers, a time to celebrate our passion for one another. But what happens after our child has died? Our innocence is lost and it takes every ounce of strength to be civil or even interested in what our partners are saying.
What happens when our psychological energy is consumed with the memories of our child and it is taking everything we have just to get through the day? What happens when we can barely look at our spouse because it reminds us of the dream that was our life, a dream that evaporated the moment our child took a last breath?
What we do is follow our own breath, let it take us deep inside ourselves to find the love and gratitude for the history we have shared with our partner. We take this time to acknowledge that our partners experience the same love we have for our child; many of our memories are theirs as well.
This Valentine’s Day is an opportunity to remember the love we have for our child and the magnificence that our love created. Know that we have the ability somewhere deep within ourselves to rise above the loss just long enough to create something that comes from our hearts, even when they are broken: a collage of our family, a table decoupage with our pictures, a necklace engraved with our children’s names, a new remote control so our spouse can continue to zone out on the television, a quilt made from our child’s clothes, a rose bush in the garden that is our child’s favorite color.
Or we can wait until it’s Valentine’s Day and buy massive quantities of half-price chocolate and eat until we fall into a sugar coma, sleeping off the hangover as we hope to be more up for Valentine’s Day next year. We all have choices in this life, I believe in the human spirit and that we are all trying to do our very best… whatever that may look like. So do your best to love yourself and know that the love, passion, and energy you once felt for your partner will begin to flow yet again.
Lisa Buell is a writer, activist, mother of three and parent of two. She works with Children’s Hospice and Palliative Care Coalition, Partnership for Parents www.childrenshospice.org, as a parent advocate bringing a parent’s perspective to the development of palliative care programs and policies. To contact Lisa email her at firstname.lastname@example.org
Where do we meet?
Second Wednesday of each month at a local public Library. Please check our website for updates and locations.
February: Grief and Your Relationships at South Jordan Library
March: Despite How You Feel There IS Reason For Hope at Herriman Library
April: Ways To Put Effort Into Your Healing at South Jordan Library
Fourth Tuesday of each month at Jordan Valley Hospital, 2nd Floor Classroom, 3580 W. 9000 S.
February: Grief and Your Relationships
March: Despite How You Feel There IS Reason for Hope
April: Nurturing Self with special Mother's Day craft
Please visit the Support Meetings/Workshops tab on our website for full details.
Click HERE to view the January edition of the National Share Magazine.
This month's quote:
"Grief, I've learned, is really just love.
It's all the love you want to give but cannot.
All of that unspent love
gathers up in the corners of your eyes,
the lump in your throat,
and in that hollow part of your chest.
Grief is just love with no place to go."
Our Third Annual Valentines Gala is our next big event.
We will be holding the Gala at the aquarium and are excited to have Dr. Matt Townsend back (www.matttownsend.com). He will be speaking on the unique relationship experiences that can occur while healing after the loss of our loved one(s).
The Gala is February 9, 2017 at the Loveland Living Planet Aquarium.
We will be holding a silent auction with items such as Jet Blue Airlines round-trip tickets, Disneyland tickets, hotel stays, gift baskets, and more!
Photographer John Lloyd (www.capturedlightphoto.com) will capture the evening and provide a free, downloadable keepsake photo for you.
Gala tickets are now on sale! Your meal ticket includes private access to the Aquarium (after public viewing hours).
The price of your meal is the price of your ticket. The meal options are as follows:
Chicken Modena ($55) Balsamic-Marinated Breast of Chicken with Preserved Cherry Compote, Asparagus Risotto and Grilled Asparagus
Grilled Filet Mignon ($75) Grilled 7 oz. Filet Mignon, Peppercorn Cream Sauce, Yukon Gold White Cheddar Potatoes, Steamed Asparagus
Grilled Salmon ($60) Wild Alaskan Salmon, Dill Pistachio Pistou, Snap Peas with Mixed Bell Peppers, Summer Herb Basmati Rise
Vegan Aloo Gobi Masala ($55) Crispy Potatoes, Cauliflower, English Peas, Vine Tomatoes, Sautéed with Indian Seasonings, Served on Rice.
*All dinners are gluten free and include lemonade, salad, freshly-baked artisan bread basket with sweet butter and dessert bar!
**Full Cash Bar available
Everyone who comes to the Gala will be entered into a raffle for a
wonderful gift basket!
Please purchase tickets by January 29, 2017 by following this two step process: 1. Send donations via PayPal (email@example.com) or Venmo (@Shareparent). 2. Email us (Info@shareparentsofutah.org) with your meal choice (including how you want your filet cooked, if applicable), proof of purchase and an address we can mail your tickets.
We look forward to seeing you there!
*This Is A Formal Event*
We are excited to have Tami Alvord join us as a support meeting facilitator. She will be facilitating the library meetings held on the 2nd Wednesday of every month from 7:00-8:30PM.
My name is Tami Alvord and I have been a volunteer with Share since March 2016. I recently had the 10 year anniversary of my son's passing. His name is Conner and he was born on New Year's Day 2005 with a rare genetic disorder that we had no knowledge of until after he was born. He received a liver transplant at 7 weeks old and many other treatments throughout his short life. He passed on December 2006, when he was 23 months old, just a few days before Christmas.
I knew of Share sometime after my loss and I had met some other moms who had gone through losses. It felt really good to meet others who were on the same journey I was, to know that I was not alone in this. I moved out of state and that's when I started to attend support meetings; I finally started to make some progress in coping with my loss and dealing with my grief, I learned how to live this new normal, and even to enjoy things again.
We moved back to Utah and the thought of helping other families who have experienced a loss kept popping in my mind. I looked up Share on Facebook and learned of their mission and the amazing work they do. I signed up to take the volunteer class. I have met wonderful people who have taught me so much. I'm very grateful to be a part of this admirable organization.