Sunday, January 29, 2017

Share Parents of Utah

Third Annual
Valentine's Gala

We look forward to celebrating Valentine's Day a few days early with fellow Share Parents who understand and love one another!

We are so excited to have Dr. Matt Townsend back with us ( 

He will be speaking on the unique relationship experiences that can occur while on our grief journey following the death of our loved one(s).

The Gala is February 9, 2017, 6-9 PM
at Loveland Living Planet Aquarium in Draper, UT.

We will be holding a silent auction with items such as jetBlue Airways tickets, Disneyland tickets, local sports tickets, hotel stays, gift baskets, and much much more!

Everyone who attends the Gala will automatically be entered into a raffle 
to win a fantastic gift basket put together by our amazing sponsors from the efforts of our incredible, hard-working and selfless volunteers!

Ticket sales are closed.

Photographer John Lloyd ( will capture the evening and provide a free, downloadable keepsake photo for you.

**Full Cash Bar available

*This Is A Formal Event*

Taking Care of Your Relationship After the Death of a Child

Written by Lisa Buell on Thursday, January 29, 2009

Valentine’s Day is a day for lovers, a time to celebrate our passion for one another.  But what happens after our child has died?  Our innocence is lost and it takes every ounce of strength to be civil or even interested in what our partners are saying.

What happens when our psychological energy is consumed with the memories of our child and it is taking everything we have just to get through the day? What happens when we can barely look at our spouse because it reminds us of the dream that was our life, a dream that evaporated the moment our child took a last breath?

What we do is follow our own breath, let it take us deep inside ourselves to find the love and gratitude for the history we have shared with our partner.  We take this time to acknowledge that our partners experience the same love we have for our child; many of our memories are theirs as well.

This Valentine’s Day is an opportunity to remember the love we have for our child and the magnificence that our love created.  Know that we have the ability somewhere deep within ourselves to rise above the loss just long enough to create something that comes from our hearts, even when they are broken: a collage of our family, a table decoupage with our pictures, a necklace engraved with our children’s names, a new remote control so our spouse can continue to zone out on the television, a quilt made from our child’s clothes, a rose bush in the garden that is our child’s favorite color.

Or we can wait until it’s Valentine’s Day and buy massive quantities of half-price chocolate and eat until we fall into a sugar coma, sleeping off the hangover as we hope to be more up for Valentine’s Day next year.  We all have choices in this life, I believe in the human spirit and that we are all trying to do our very best… whatever that may look like. So do your best to love yourself and know that the love, passion, and energy you once felt for your partner will begin to flow yet again.

Lisa Buell is a writer, activist, mother of three and parent of two. She works with Children’s Hospice and Palliative Care Coalition, Partnership for Parents, as a parent advocate bringing a parent’s perspective to the development of palliative care programs and policies. To contact Lisa email her at

Where do we meet?

Second Wednesday of each month at a local public Library. Please check our website for updates and locations.

February: Grief and Your Relationships at South Jordan Library

March: Despite How You Feel There IS Reason For Hope at Herriman Library

April: Ways To Put Effort Into Your Healing at South Jordan Library

Fourth Tuesday of each month at Jordan Valley Hospital, 2nd Floor Classroom, 3580 W. 9000 S.

February: Grief and Your Relationships

March: Despite How You Feel There IS Reason for Hope

April: Nurturing Self with special Mother's Day craft

Please visit the Support Meetings/Workshops tab on our website for full details.

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or call us at 801-272-5355

2016 marks

National Share's

40th Anniversary!

Click HERE to view the January edition of the National Share Magazine.

This month's quote:

"Grief, I've learned, is really just love.
It's all the love you want to give but cannot.
All of that unspent love
gathers up in the corners of your eyes,
the lump in your throat,
and in that hollow part of your chest.
Grief is just love with no place to go."

Wednesday, January 4, 2017

I am his, and he is mine

Valentine's GALA
February 9, 2017
6-9 PM

Our Third Annual Valentines Gala is our next big event.

We will be holding the Gala at the aquarium and are excited to have Dr. Matt Townsend back 
( He will be speaking on the unique relationship experiences that can occur while healing after the loss of our loved one(s).

The Gala is February 9, 2017 at the Loveland Living Planet Aquarium.

We will be holding a silent auction with items such as Jet Blue Airlines round-trip tickets, Disneyland tickets, hotel stays, gift baskets, and more!

Photographer John Lloyd ( will capture the evening and provide a free, downloadable keepsake photo for you.

Gala tickets are now on sale!
Your meal ticket includes private access to the Aquarium (after public viewing hours).

The price of your meal is the price of your ticket.
The meal options are as follows:

Chicken Modena ($55)
Balsamic-Marinated Breast of Chicken with
Preserved Cherry Compote, Asparagus Risotto and Grilled Asparagus

Grilled Filet Mignon ($75)
Grilled 7 oz. Filet Mignon, Peppercorn Cream Sauce, Yukon Gold White Cheddar Potatoes,
Steamed Asparagus

Grilled Salmon ($60)
Wild Alaskan Salmon, Dill Pistachio Pistou, Snap Peas with Mixed Bell Peppers,
Summer Herb Basmati Rise

Vegan Aloo Gobi Masala ($55)
Crispy Potatoes, Cauliflower, English Peas, Vine Tomatoes, Sautéed with Indian Seasonings,
Served on Rice.

*All dinners are gluten free and include lemonade, salad,
freshly-baked artisan bread basket with sweet butter and dessert bar!

**Full Cash Bar available

Everyone who comes to the Gala will be entered into a raffle for a 
wonderful gift basket!

Please purchase tickets by January 29, 2017 by following this two step process:
1. Send donations via PayPal ( or Venmo (@Shareparent).
2. Email us ( with your meal choice (including how you want your filet cooked, if applicable), proof of purchase and an address we can mail your tickets. 


We look forward to seeing you there!

*This Is A Formal Event*

We are excited to have Tami Alvord join us as a support meeting facilitator. She will be facilitating the library meetings held on the 2nd Wednesday of every month from 7:00-8:30PM.

Tami's Story:

My name is Tami Alvord and I have been a volunteer with Share since March 2016. I recently had the 10 year anniversary of my son's passing. His name is Conner and he was born on New Year's Day 2005 with a rare genetic disorder that we had no knowledge of until after he was born. He received a liver transplant at 7 weeks old and many other treatments throughout his short life. He passed on December 2006, when he was 23 months old, just a few days before Christmas. 

I knew of Share sometime after my loss and I had met some other moms who had gone through losses.  It felt really good to meet others who were on the same journey I was, to know that I was not alone in this. I moved out of state and that's when I started to attend support meetings; I finally started to make some progress in coping with my loss and dealing with my grief, I learned how to live this new normal, and even to enjoy things again. 

We moved back to Utah and the thought of helping other families who have experienced a loss kept popping in my mind. I looked up Share on Facebook and learned of their mission and the amazing work they do. I signed up to take the volunteer class.  I have met wonderful people who have taught me so much. I'm very grateful to be a part of this admirable organization.